May the force be with you

May the force be with you, mmmmm may the force be with you, or is it within you? Or are you the actual force? Is the force our power, the power within us? That statement poses a lot of questions to me.

Initially when I started writing this, I thought it was the universal energy that surrounds us they were talking about in that statement. However, the more I think about it, Yoda is talking about the force within Luke Skywalker. He wants Luke to stand in his own power and feel the force of that within himself. Yoda knew what he was talking about!

I would love for you to feel that for yourself this month, feel that force of nature that you are. We get so lost over years, with layers of shite being piled up on top of us. It gets to the point where we don’t even feel like we have the energy to get up, let alone feel powerful, energetic and ready to take on the world.

We often give others our power and force and as a result of this make them responsible for our own happiness. I be’d buggered if I wanted to keep doing that. I myself am a recovering control freak and you would think I would want to be in control of my own happiness. So how come for near on 40 damn years I made it someone else’s responsibility?

I used to think friends make me happy and that it’s my husbands place to make me happy and if I am not then it is someone else’s fault! Jesus! That’s a lot of handing over my own force and power to someone else. Someone else who, by the way, often did not know that I had made it their responsibility! How the hell did I think that was going to turn out well?! In fact, the more I write this the more I realise how much of a disaster waiting to happen it was!

As young people we are not taught that we have choices, we are not taught that we have the control and power of our own lives. We are taught what to think instead of how to think. We are taught to fit into a system that basically does not work.
If we like colouring outside the lines of life we are told this is wrong! But how can it be wrong if it feels right for you?! If what you want to do, feel, think and be feels right for you, then it is right! The system is wrong, not you.

I stand in awe of people who do what is right for them without caring what others think. Those people who dress how they want, say what they feel and those that are not scared to stand out from the crowd. When I write this, one beautiful young lady stands out to me.

This incredible young lady, is proud to be neurodiverse and sees her neurodivergence as nothing but a strength. She stands up for the rights of others like her, promoting individuality. She relishes being not goth enough for goths. Even online she does not take any backlash from people especially when people say stuff to her.

This beautiful soul stands in her own power and force and knows she can. I want to be more like her, I don’t want to be young again, but I want to stand with my force on full show for the world to see, and I want you to do the same.
Go find your force beauties.

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