We all make mistakes right?! Or is it just me?
We all make mistakes right?! Or is it just me? Am I the only one in this world that makes monumental cock ups and then spend years upon years beating myself up about it? And I don’t mean oh dear never mind that I did that. I mean constantly smacking myself with a great big stick. Cos that is going to make me feel a whole lot better isn’t it?!
Well let me tell you, it doesn’t, it makes you feel a whole pile of crap to be honest. For every mistake I have made over the 50 + years of life. At no point did blaming and chastising myself for the mistake made me feel better about myself or the situation. But we continually do it, or at least I know I do.
But the thing is, I know that I am not the only one that does this. Or at least I think I am fairly sure I am not the only one. We all make mistakes, there is no-one in this world who hasn’t made one. And I mean no-one, we all do it. Even if we try so very hard not to make mistakes we do often unintentionally.
We are all flawed, each and everyone of us. None of us are perfect even if we like to think we are but the biggest thing we need to learn is that it is ok to be flawed. When we make mistakes or fuck ups, it is ok. We are not bad people because we have done that. We are human and that is part of being in this squishy human body.
Acceptance is the hardest but the most rewarding part of learning when it comes to mistakes. We find ourselves always looking outwards to others and the world to validate who or what we are. Social media displays everyone with so called perfect lives. Truly though that doesn’t exist, those pictures are all they want you to see. When our lives don’t look like that we think we are making mistakes and doing things wrong.
It’s not the truth though. The way to feel better about yourself or your life is to accept yourself warts and all. All the mistakes you have made over the years. Those bits we really don’t want to acknowledge or accept about ourselves. They are key to feeling better ourselves and the lives we lead. But I know it is hard, really hard to do that. It is something I still struggle with even to this day. Not going lie it hit me really hard over the last couple of months until someone was honest with me. When you sit with that and go “Ok, yup you are right, I am not looking after myself, I am trying to “fix” myself all the time, rather than letting myself be me”. It is not often what you want to hear, but actually that kind of love is needed.
Accept your mistakes with kindness. No beating yourself up, not chastising yourself. Kindness lots of kindness to accept that those things happened, it doesn’t make you a lesser person. You become fuller, lighter and stand taller.
You are amazing just as you are, mistakes, warts and all. And I love you.
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