You are unique, incredible and wonderful, 1 in 7.5 billion. We are all beautiful souls but don’t we struggle with that thought. If you are anything like me, you might have tried not to stand out from the crowd. We all try and fit in with those around us, friends and peers. I used to spend my days being at the back of anywhere. Just so I did not get seen or stand out. The thought of being unique probably filled me with dread.
But I learnt something this year, something that blew my mind! Deep down I clearly wanted to be unique and actually quite liked it. But not that I ever had any conscious awareness of doing that. I have always been a “big girl” for want of a better term. It is something I have said about myself countless times. I have considered myself that since about the age of 16 and it has not bothered me. Or so I thought.
For most of my life, I have felt “different” from other people around me. I have felt that I always saw the world in a different way. Which only added to my weirdness and being unique. I wanted to be my full woo woo self but it was not something I felt I could be. So I developed another strategy to become unique and make myself stand out. That uniqueness came from me being a “big girl”. I didn’t look my friends or anyone else I knew at the time or for many years after. But this big girl did not let being big stop her doing anything! Or at least that is what I thought.
Being large and jolly gave me significance, it gave me love and connection. It allowed me to be unique and different from everyone else. Like I always thought I was, but not in the way I wanted. When I learnt this, it was one of those moments where you go FFS, really! I wanted to feel unique and different, but because I couldn’t in one way, I did it in another. Being unique scares us, it means we don’t fit in with others. We want to fit in because it gives us belonging, love and connection. And those are some of our core needs which need to be met. If we do not meet them in a healthy way, then our subconscious will find a way of doing it.
If we could all learn at a young age that being our unique selves is a beautiful thing to do. When we are able to love being ourselves, people love us for being us. The true, honest us, who is happy to stand within their own power. It gives other people permission to do that too. If we could all encourage each other to be unique and our true selves, what an amazing place the world would be.
Love from Lynne xxx
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